Dear oliaS:

I suggest two things: one, learn from this experience, the second: explain to him what you learned from it.

This is what I learned from your experience that you shared, take from it what applies to you:

Before we act on our good intent to help another, we need to stop and think: how is our thought-of action going to help the other person?

You overheard that someone is going to be let go from work. You thought about alerting him so that he will be prepared. How would that be helpful? If he is aware ahead of time, what would the benefit be for him?

Then one thinks: if by telling him what I overheard, he will become distressed and there will be no benefit to him in my telling, if he cannot undo the decision of his bosses, why cause him distress earlier than necessary?

And so, between our INTENT and our ACTION, we need to PAUSE and think if our action will serve our intent.

anita