Dear Ashley:

I believe you asserted yourself in your second post where you wrote that you “need someone to just really listen to us sometimes without the lecture”, and so, I would  like to respect your assertion, your clear statement about what you need here. I can do so by attentively reading your sharing, then repeating what you share, perhaps, using my own words, so to let you know I understand what you shared (and giving you the opportunity to correct my understanding, clarify or add), without asking you questions or making suggestions. If you would like me to do that, let me know.

anita