Dear Anita and Dawn,

Thank you again for your responses. I think there may be a lot of truth in him taking on my aniexties when I relieve them onto him – I had not considered this. I don’t feel that I micro manage him or that I’m overly critical or have unrealistic demands in any way. What I meant by the dusting example was that he always carries the attitude that he knows best and that nothing I have to say or to contribute has any value. When I’m away at all it’s as if I’m completely out of mind and he is very careless let alone he barely stays in touch with me.

I think this past week has really been an eye opener to me and I now have very little desire to return to the relationship. It is amazing what you can be unaware of when you are in the midst of it all.

This has helped me to accept that it is only him who can face his problems too, so thank you.

If you have any advice for healing and moving on I would really appreciate that also.

Thank you