Dear FearandShame:

There is a thread on this website that started a few years ago, before I came along. It is called “Letting go of childhood mistakes”, the title is, I think (you can look for it going back in pages, last entry was weeks or a month or two ago). Later in the thread, a good number of young people posted with struggles similar to yours about their sexual behaviors at a younger age, as children/ minors.  Much of what I replied there to different individuals applies to you too. I hope you find it and that it will be helpful to you.

Maybe you even posted there and maybe I already replied to you, I don’t remember: did we communicate there before?

anita