Hi, Jeff!

First of all, thank you to you, Craig and PierceHawk – your posts were one more proof to me that, despite all those talks about male vs female psychologies, we are all fundamentally the same, human. It is really a consolation to know that not only women can analyse and overanalyse things, go back to the past moments again and again, think what might have been, etc.

A fantastic book with thirty practical pieces of advice written by a Russian practising psychotherapist helped me immensely when I was going through my painful breakup two years ago. It is 200+ pages long, and I wouldn’t be able to translate all of it into English, but I shall try to make a short version out it. I’ll try to translate those thirty pieces of advice and maybe a short comment as to what is meant by each of them. However, I’ll be going on vacation soon and unfortunately, can’t give any deadlines. Probably in one month at the latest, but will try to do it much sooner, today or tomorrow.

In the meantime, I would like to refer you to posts of brav3, here, on Tiny Buddha. He also went through a breakup a year ago or so. What he experienced was quite similar to what all of us experience, and his mental and emotional journey is well documented in the posts on this site. For some reason, it helped me to read other people’s experiences, see that I was by far not alone at all in what I was feeling, so it was normal and would pass sooner or later.

Brav3 also started a topic entitled Some suggestions that might help for people going through breakup or divorce. Please take a look – funny enough, lots of what he discovered through his experience is exactly what can be found among those 30 pieces of advice.

Take care,

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