Dear Anita,

Thank you for your detailed feedback. Sorry that it took me 5 days to reply to you, I actually am home for the summer right now. I talked with my parents regarding my concerns and I have been spending time with my close friends here, I was basically under a self restoration. I have to say that the break up was the main trigger of this whole thing. Last week while writing this, I was still very much in a deep dark cave, thinking that how my life had truly ended just because a boy broke up with me.

I truly realise that the main core of the problem is me. It is never about my parents or my ex. I never have any plans or goals that did not include my ex partner in the future, so of course after the relationship had ended – I genuinely thought that my future had also ended. After talking to my parents, I finally set up a short term and long term plan about my education and my working place in the future. I decided the plan myself, my mother surprisingly agrees with me right away while my father still has some other plan in his mind, I frankly at this point – does not really care about it much. I love my father but this is my life, I won’t live my life in a way that my father has lived his. I will decide what is best for me.

In a way, that break up is like a wake up call for me. It was painful, I admit that but … I am also very thankful for it. Because of that break up, it made re-think about everything in my life. Including my future dating life. I was foolish to think that me and this particular ex partner is somehow meant for each other when we are clearly not. We want different things in life, and it will never work out, even if he is not going to move college or even if he is not going to his mandatory military service. It took me a while to realise and accept that. We are just different people.

I believe that someone is out there, I will find the love of my life while finding myself slowly and surely. No need to rush anything. My parents and my friends here have truly helped me to see things in different respective. Their love and support has been overshadowing this whole thing.  I see hope now because I can see my future, at least I have a plan for it that does not include anyone but myself. My plan will NOT change no matter what, I am the only one that is able to change it for the right reasons not because of a partner or because my parents said so.

It has been unbelievable that I am going through this … so young. I do not know how to explain the feeling but I am starting to really be at peace with myself. Thank you, Anita, for reading my long rant and giving such amazing advices for the past weeks. I couldn’t thank you enough. Thank you once again.

All Love,

Mina