Yes, Andy, I’ve been there, many times! I finally got a handle on it when I did a lot of personal work learning about what triggers fears of abandonment in me, and why.  Then I did some  relational work, i.e., learned about my behaviors that contributed to the dynamic of run-chase, etc. I recommend you read about clinger-avoider on Al Turtle’s web site. I believe you can turn this around, as I have, but at least for me, it took some time and commitment to working on myself.

Craig