Dear Keerthi:

You are welcome.

I think that it is time for you to free yourself from your parents’ thoughts and feelings, their beliefs and values and trust you own, be your own person. Trying to satisfy their wants, where will that get you?

I think I know where it will get you- to where you are now: “LOST!!”

Satisfying their wants, what you believe they want, by ending your relationship with your boyfriend, and then finding an Indian man to marry, so to please your parents- will that satisfy you? Is that what you want to do?

And what if you went through all that trouble and it didn’t make your parents happy?

We still try, many of us, no matter how old we are, to please our parents. It is a great force, a motivation. Resist it, and your life will be better for it.

anita