She was unapologetic at first and even denied it initially even though I’d heard enough to out her. She placed some blame on me for it, but then said that she just cannot control how she feels and that she had feelings for this other guy. I have yet to really process it and have been ranging from denial to depression to anger. I just can’t believe all our years of marriage and kids is so trivial that she is now willing to risk it all just to meet this person.