Thank you both for responding. I still live under the same roof right now as we share the responsibility of the kids. Sometimes it is civil, and other times I can barely look at her. Every time she uses the phone, text or call I imagine it’s to talk to him. It’s torturous, but I don’t want to leave my kids. I also don’t want to jeopardize any opportunity at reconciliation by closing our lines of communication. I’m hoping that her affair is nothing, but unfortunately, my wife and I met accidentally online so there is special pain attached to how she is going about this new guy. I feel like it’s all eating me alive right now.