Dear Miney10:

Following an argument he told you that he wasn’t happy and didn’t think that you were happy either. He told you that he has “hurt (you) enough and can’t go on doing it“. He suggested that he may be at fault for not “showing his emotions enough“, that he “doesn’t have the qualities a real boyfriend should have and (you) deserve better“, and that he is “truly sorry for.. all the hurt he’s caused (you)”.

You wrote that you hardly argued throughout the relationship and that he has been “pulling away for months”, displaying lack of affection

Following the recent breakup you discovered something about his Facebook and “Told him to go to hell and wish I had never met him”.

Reads to me that this might have happened (this is a possibility, for your consideration and evaluation, let me know):

He it the quiet type, tends to feel guilty when things go wrong in a relationship. During most if not all of the relationship you communicated to him that he is an inadequate boyfriend, not good enough, not emotional enough, and what not. He didn’t … defend himself or argue or assert himself with you. He took in the accusations, as subtle as they may have been, because he already believes he is inadequate.

For a few months he was considering breaking up, feeling quite miserable. At one point he gathered the courage to breakup with you, expressed to you his long felt guilt (quotes above, at the beginning of my post).

anita