Dear Pickles:

Reads to me that he feels out of control, unable to control what he says to you (or what he said to women in past relationships). Thing is, these are not likely to be mistakes but his way of protecting himself from getting hurt. By saying inappropriate things he may be trying to get you to get away from him so that he doesn’t have to stay in a relationship where he may get hurt.

If I was you I  would ask him to share about his childhood experience, his relationships with his parents then and maybe now, see if there is hurt there so intense that he is still afraid to re-experience it in the context of a romantic relationship.

If there is such a hurt he may not want to talk about it, but you can learn from his response nonetheless.

anita