Dear Amy:

Regarding him not telling you “I love you”- it is so easy to say these words, to utter them, takes a couple of seconds and burns 0.05 calories. Easy. How many people say these words because they are so easy and they bring about desired results, but not because they mean it? I don’t have the answer but many, I am thinking.

On the other hand, actions are more difficult to bring about, take more time than a couple of seconds and more effort. And so, if  you “feel like (he loves you) through his actions though”, that is more telling than the words.

And I agree with your boyfriend when he tells you that he can’t give you security. As to why you are so insecure (the title of your thread)- the answers being in those “past issues” you mentioned, aren’t they?

anita