Dear Seeker:

I am not familiar with an existing guided meditation about accepting inevitable changes. I haven’t listened to guided meditations for a long, long time. I know that there are many available online, lots and lots.

You wrote that you need help accepting changes, manage fear of upcoming hardships and that you are “stuck in a perpetual ‘Why can stuff not be like it was… the good old times / in my childhood'”.

It is my experience that people who had tough childhoods, childhoods filled with suffering, remember their past in the most nostalgic ways, filtering out the negatives and remembering the positives in a magnified, almost magical way. This is because a child needs comfort and if there is none in his reality, he makes believe there is. When grown, the adult still makes believe…

I do not know how tough your childhood was, maybe it wasn’t. But certainly it wasn’t all good, not as good as you remember.

The meditation (quiet contemplation, entertaining thoughts when calm, undistracted) I am suggesting is taking a flashlight, figuratively, and moving it from where it has been pointing to and pointing it elsewhere, here and there and there, to not so good times. Then view the whole picture. This way your focus expands to the whole.

If you meditate on that, expanding your nostalgic view of your childhood and past, you will see that you already survived hardship and you are capable of surviving more. Maybe even thriving, that is learning from hardship and living a better life as a result of learning, accepting what you cannot change and change what you can change.

anita