Dear Casey:

You wrote that he told you that “he didn’t expect to rush into a relationship”, but then “we then spent everyday together before he went back to work. So a little confusing”- spending everyday together following his statement does not negate the statement.

You mentioned your need for clarity. I think you have an unrealistic expectation in regard to human behavior, specifically, in this case, a man’s behavior. The consistency you expect is unrealistic. He is a human in flux, changing. He does not possess a solid idea regarding where you stand, he doesn’t have that information (” I have asked where I stand and does he want to call this a day? And his responses arent clear or barely replies”).

You wrote in your original post: “I am used to men disappointing me and not following through” – I think that at this point, “not following through” has taken on this unrealistic quality I mentioned. People cannot and will not be as consistent as you would  like them to be, being humans, unlike machines that are perfectly consistent (until they malfunction).

The clarity you expect is of this or that quality when often it is this and that.

anita