Dear calisister:

I understand the awkwardness in discussing such a personal matter on a public forum so I will be as sensitive to this as I can be. On page 13 of your thread you shared that you compared an ex boyfriend’s sexual practices with his ex girlfriend with such practices with you. After reading that I figured, well, that there has been sexual activity, hence my concern.

I suppose what you referred to was limited maybe to … well, very limited (don’t need details!)

I am glad that you have been in control this way, yes, much relieved and I do feel differently about you dating men. Still, I think you should date with great caution, develop a dating strategy that will work for you. Your dating history is dysfunctional, no doubt in my mind (and yours, correct?), so better go about it effectively.

I would like to think of you as being in control of what you say to a man, not in perfect control, of course, as feeling excited and spontaneous is okay, healthy. But a reasonable self control is necessary for a healthy date, and definitely for a healthy relationship.

If you are for devising a dating strategy tailored for you specifically, a dating-strategy-for-calisister, then I think it will be an excellent idea and I am more than willing to help with that.

anita