Dear Jacq:

My thoughts: that in-love feeling doesn’t stay the same for people, of course. I think he knows it, being he’s  been in the relationship with you three years.

The one year cooling off on his part is not promising.

Those ups and downs you mentioned, if those downs followed aggression in the relationship, fights, silent treatments, repeated blaming, guilt tripping and so on, nothing like aggression to kill that in-love feeling.

Some people thrive on fighting and and making up, many eventually tire of it, of that dynamic.

anita