Dear Livy:

For a year and a half he was affectionate and sexual with you, then he slowly behaved less and less affectionately and sexually with you, about  two years. there’s  less and less affection and sex to the point  of not having sex for moths at a time.

You wrote that communication between the two  of you was always good and  after you communicated to him your dissatisfaction, he improved but then the affection and sex lessened again. This has  been a pattern, a “vicious cycle”, you called it. He told  you throughout that he has  “no idea why he is like that”.

You wrote: “The problems go deeper in that area but I’m trying to  sum this up into a brief read”- it is okay with me if you make it a longer read. I have the  time and the  motivation to read and learn. Would  you like to elaborate on the problems. I need this information so to understand.

anita