Dear Jennhy Lynn:

It is his persistent, paranoid behavior that is so alarming to me. In the past you described a few things that I considered a problem, his passive aggressive behavior, him seeing offense where there is none. But what you described in the post before last is most alarming. He thinks of you at times as guilty, as one cheating on him, hurting him and he checks on you, presently and for a while, daily, it seems like. He is in the habit of checking on you. What happens when in his mind he gets The Proof that you cheated on him, that you did him wrong. How will he respond…

You don’t want him to catch you in the act- in his own mind, nothing to do with reality. In the act of cheating on him. You heard what people do “in the heat of passion” when they catch their significant other cheating on them, correct? Well, because of his paranoid behavior, his daily habit on checking on you, in his mind, he may be catching you in the act of cheating on him, and then…

I would say, yes, as soon as possible, leave under the supervision of someone who can protect you and take a restraining order against him. This will improve your chances for safety.

Write me anytime, I will stay by the computer for half an hour or more, waiting.

anita