That makes sense.

Just keep it short, basically tell him that “I have some issues with you telling me or implying to me that you’re watching me or need to keep watch on me” and that I need him to kind of clarify some of his actions/statements.

Yes I am cringing at that thought too.

That will ultimately make the choice for me.

I mean I am sane, so I can’t knowingly know that and still stay within this relationship.

Other smaller issues is more like I changed my mind frame to, can I be ok with this ‘thing’ in order to have what he brings to my life overall. But this is really non-negotiable.

I will however let you know what he says in response to this in a few days when I find the right time to start that conversation.