Mark, I did not receive any tools to deal with it.  It helped to open up and talk about it but really no things I could do on a daily basis.  Maybe I should be looking for a more helpful therapist.

Peter, thanks for your suggestion.  Even at my age I want to make a change.  I’ve carried it around long enough.  I have heard that the practice of “forgiveness”  helps to get over past hurts and pains.  Do you recommend a specific way to engage this practice?