Dear JonathanSeagull:

Well, being honest is telling her what you shared above: “I want to go and do more than I think I’m capable of doing while in this current relationship, if not in any relationship in the foreseeable future… graduate school.. travelling.. a stronger Zen practice… music” and you “don’t feel my passion align too strongly with hers… I don’t feel particularly supported..’-

just change the pronouns and that will be as honest as can be.

The standard break up line “it isn’t personal” or it-isn’t-you, that isn’t honest is it? I mean, a relationship and a breakup is personal.

anita