Dear GC:

If you start your healing process and persists in it, then you will be able to  discern better where it is your anxiety and where it is another person’s abusive behavior or significant incompatibility.

This is a pattern I see as possible: you experience increasing distress in a relationship, you are motivated to end it so to find relief from your distress, you use any imperfection in a man to move you toward ending the relationship. You end it, experience relief, freedom from that distress. Maybe you figure it must have been the wrong guy.

After a while you get lonely and long for a relationship. You get into one, feeling euphoria, perhaps, happy, but the distress returns, then increases, and so on, a pattern.

Back to the beginning of this post to you, healing from your anxiety in the context of your relationship/s as a child, is where hope is, I believe.

anita