yes anita, that is exactly what happens! thank you so much for all of your insight. I will definitely discuss it more with my therapist. hopefully as I progress in therapy, my relationship will benefit from it as well. if not, and I find myself thinking it is simply not a right fit, I can move on 🙂

i also experienced a very bad depressive episode about 2 months ago — had no interest in everyone and everything. i expected my boyfriend to make me feel better, but nothing helped. I pinned a lot of it on him, I believe. Dating and relationships have caused me a lot of distress/depression in the past, so that is probably why I did that instinctively. hopefully I can work through it!