Dear Amrutha:

No, it is not selfish for you to choose your freedom. It is selfish of your parents to take away your freedom.

You wrote: “I don’t know how can I make them (your parents) realize they are very important to me at the same time my freedom is”-

I have no doubt that they already know how very important they are to you. They know how intensely you are emotionally attached to them… ever since you were a baby. This is why they feel comfortable forcing you to act against your own well-being. They feel comfortable doing to you what you would never imagine or want to do to them.

You would never think to force them into a miserable situation, would you.

Parents have the power and they know it and misuse it, threatening to leave their children (of any age, even a financially independent adult, like you) if the child displeases them.

anita