Dear Emma:

This is my understanding at this point, what you shared and my thoughts in regard to what you shared. Please let me know if my understanding is correct:

you are very much alone, no close family, no friends, no one you confided with about having been raped three weeks ago (other than very partial disclosure to two paramedics yesterday), or that you were abused prior to that by your ex boyfriend. There is no one to take you to a clinic or to a hospital and wait with you there.

You attempted to report the rape to the police but your ex boyfriend intervened and threatened you with a false report charge. He also stalks you alone or with other police officers or friends of his, in an attempt to further intimidate you.

Following the rape of three weeks ago (and perhaps physical abuse before that), you did not see any doctor, or any medical professional in regard to injuries. You mentioned your wrist pain to the two paramedics you saw yesterday, but no physical examination has taken place.

My thoughts: without a physical examination, without a medical record following your rape, at this point, there is probably no medical proof that there was a rape. It is his word against his.

*If he has a history of a rape charge, a record of any sexual misconduct and/ or domestic violence and such, then your word on the matter may carry more weight.

I wonder what he is afraid of, what motivates him to stalk you. I wonder that because legally, if he doesn’t have the record I mentioned above, he has nothing to worry about, does he. No proof of any kind that there was  a rape or that there was physical abuse prior to that.

anita