Dear Cheska:

In your original post you wrote: “I always feel that the person whom I love will always come to hurt me”.

Based on your recent post, it is no wonder that you feel this way because it already happened: you loved your mother (children naturally do) and she really did hurt you with her words, with her tone of voice, with the volume of her voice, with the broom, and so on.

You wrote in your original post: “I tend to be clingy, needy and insecure”.

No wonder. A child is naturally clingy, needy and  insecure, needing the mother to be kind, calm, attentive and supportive. You didn’t have such a mother, and so you entered adulthood still clingy, needy and insecure, at least in context of relationships.

Your mother was wrong to have yelled at you and hit you. She was wrong to have displayed aggression against you. It was her wrongdoing, not yours.

Do you agree with my last statement?

anita