Dear Happi:

Your mental health should be your first priority. Reads to me that this man, this relationship has not benefited your mental health, that it has aggravated it, increasing your anxiety.

This man and this relationship is bad for your mental health:

Before: “when I needed him the most, he just turned his back… he didn’t even want to help me when I was depressed. This is what gave me palpitations..”

Now: “he wouldn’t stop talking with her… I just woke up with a panic attack and my heart thumping very fast”-

if he stopped talking to her, it would have helped you, you would have known he is on your side. You didn’t ask him to stop talking to a family member whom he has known all his life. You asked him to stop talking to a woman he met after he met you and with whom he had physical intimacy with. It would be reasonable for him to stop talking to her so to help you.

My point is, reads to me he is bad for your mental health. Therefore it is a bad idea to continue to have him in your life.

anita