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  • June 21, 2018 at 5:20 am #213345
    sara
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    I hate my life so much. I got my parents angry 7 months ago and they’ve lost my trust ever since. I’ve been trying so hard to regain that trust and i finally got my dads trust. My mom on the other hand doesn’t trust me a bit. She has banned me from going to my friends houses and going out with my cousins. I haven’t went out in 7 months. I have perfect grades in school  yet they don’t really care about that because they always assume i’ll continue getting good grades.

    My mom controls my entire life and I’m sick of it. She shattered my phone 7 months ago and have been phone-less ever since. I can’t keep up with my friends so they assumed i don’t like them anymore thus not inviting me to places. She has ruined my social life and i can’t do anything about it. I have accepted this is my life so I tried befriending my mother so she can see I’m trying to make things right because I’m sick of it. We fight every other day and its been like this for over 3 years now. She doesn’t like to be wrong and she sticks by her answer.

    My daily life consists of me waking up, walking around the house, eating whatever anything in the fridge, staying in my room until i go back to sleep (we’re on summer vacation so no school). I feel so lonely all the time because i don’t do anything at all. I’m 15 and I literally have no life. I’ve tried to talk to my mom so many times but all that leads to is me crying and her ending up in a bad mood for weeks on end and i get nothing out of it. I wanna kill myself but I’m honestly too scared to die and i don’t want to hurt my dad. I have no friends, I trust no one and my relationship with my mom is at its worse in 3 years.

    I’ve never slept over at my grandma’s house because she doesn’t want me to. I’ve never went to the mall with my friends or watched a movie with them (only been to their house and only the friends that my mom knows). All I do is watch tv shows and even then my mom gets angry at me staying up late EVEN THOUGH WE HAVE NO SCHOOL. I’m so lonely and i can’t do anything about it because she controls my entire life and i can’t talk to her cause she’s so close minded, I don’t know what to do anymore, I’ve just given up on life. i hope starve to death ffs.

    June 21, 2018 at 5:32 am #213361
    Anonymous
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    Dear sara:

    Your mother shattered your phone seven months ago and you don’t have a phone ever since. What happened seven months ago?

    anita

    June 21, 2018 at 5:42 am #213363
    sara
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    I got a boyfriend behind my parent’s back but i have learnt from that and i would never do that in the present day.

     

    June 21, 2018 at 6:03 am #213371
    Anonymous
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    Dear sara:

    What has your mother’s position about you having a boyfriend been before and now, what did she teach you about having a boyfriend, about what a relationship with a young man should be like, for you, and at what age?

    anita

    June 21, 2018 at 11:26 am #213465
    Anonymous
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    Dear sara:

    I hope I didn’t turn you away by asking questions. I wanted to understand your situation better, this is why I asked.

    Your mother’s behavior reads unreasonable, from what you shared. I wish it was different for you. If you would like to share more about your situation, please do. Perhaps other members will respond as well, offering you something that may be helpful to you.

    * I will be away from the computer and back in about 15 hours.

    anita

    June 22, 2018 at 2:59 am #213563
    sara
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    I come from a religious arab family so having a boyfriend is forbidden and considered a great sin. To me a relationship isn’t sexual at all but the sharing of feelings. I don’t have the desire to do this anymore as it isn’t worth the consequences.

     

    June 22, 2018 at 3:31 am #213567
    Anonymous
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    Dear sara:

    Your life is very difficult, like a prisoner. It shouldn’t be that way, but as you know, it is the way it is. My suggestions:

    If you didn’t do so already, talk to your father about him talking to your mother regarding having some social life.

    Talk to your mother in a different way than before. “We fight every other day… She doesn’t like to be wrong and she sticks by her answer”-

    do not try to tell her that she is wrong- all that does is makes her angrier and more stubborn. Don’t argue with her and do not fight. Every time you argue and fight with her, you make things worse for yourself.

    Do not try to befriend her either. That might make her suspicious of you.

    Instead: let her know that she has the power over you and that you accept it.

    Then let her know that you would like a limited social life and suggest to her to put together a contract where the behaviors she does not want you to do are specified, the behaviors she is okay with are specified, and the consequences are specified as well. Offer to sign such a contract.

    What do you think?

    anita

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