Dear Sara:

* I posted this before reading your recent posts, the ones following your original post:

Reads to me that you are not interested in a relationship with a man. You mentioned having family obligations that are not congruent with having a committed, demanding relationship with a  man. You mentioned needing a lot of time alone, to recharge, that you have been closed off and “too afraid to venture out”. Well, this relationship allows you to have a bit of what you need: physical intimacy with a man outside a committed, demanding relationship.

You wrote, “the status quo is comfortable for me”, this relationship has been comfortable for you for a  while, except part of it is distressing, the his-way-or-the-highway part, and the .. indecency of him otherwise.

I suppose it is an option for you to seek a friends-with-benefits relationship with another man who will not practice the my-way-or-the-highway attitude, who will be respectful to you, one who you like better.  Read to me that you are still, as before, not interested in a committed love relationship with a man. Am I correct?

anita