Dear Azalia:

I hope you fully recover from the crash, and welcome back.

You wrote that you “always had this idea of my life partner knowing all about me”- I think that the motivation behind this idea, this desire that he will know all about you is to be fully approved, to be fully okayed by another.

It is not about the telling him of everything but about him being okay with all that you are and have been past and present, to know ALL about you and say to you in response: you are okay. I  love you, always will as you are. I will not  leave you.

If I am correct, then for as long as you believe that you are un-approvable, there will not be enough that you confess and he okays, to make you feel safe. There will always be something, a thought that you just had that he must know about, a feeling you had that may have been wrong… he should know about it, and so on.

What do you think?

anita