Hi Connie,

I think it’s great that you take a time out for yourself. Without knowing yourself thoroughly, or who you are in this moment, it would be tough to figure out what your wants and needs are. I too am going through this. What I find interesting is that people assume because we are single that we are available. That’s the first thing you need to decide. Are you available yet? If you are working on yourself, getting to know who you are, your wants and needs, perhaps not. There’s nothing wrong with that.

It’s good to have opposite sex friends to be with, which is the middle path I’ve chosen. We are clear that we are friends and there is no pressure of any sort. We enjoy each other’s company. I would encourage you to keep company with some nice men, women friends too, but men who have some of the qualities that you possess or you might be looking for.

I wish you all the best in your self-discovery. Timing, as has been mentioned in previous responses, is optimal when two people are ready, comfortable with themselves and know what they will tolerate, what they need and what goes over the line. Nobody is perfect, but we, as imperfect beings, have many choices. Loving yourself enough to look in both the light and the dark of your psyche will put you in the best possible position to give and receive the love and life we wish for.

Moon Yin