Hi Inky, thank you for your reply.

I do understand what you mean when you put it this way.

I don’t want to control my partner and I want him to do what makes him happy.

But I feel that if you truly want to spend the future with someone and you are already 30 y/o you would try and make an effort to make that happen one day with your partner if you tell her often you want to marry her, she’s the only one, you don’t know what to do without her, etc.

I’ve spoken with him and I know the distance is tough for both of us, but when he also tells me he do not enjoy staying at home because he feel they keep nagging at him and are often negative and want to move, then I would hope he would try to do something to get away. He told me that if his mom would not pay for the ID this upcoming Tuesday if I would then lend him the money to go get one done, which I promised him that I would help him with.

I get that I might come off at the one “Harping” on him, but if he make me promises and say things like he wants to get married and have kids then my expectations for him will just also be that I want him to make an effort for it to one day be possible for us.

– Laika