Hi

Following up on what I wrote earlier, the only thing that works between us is if we do not communicate. I am an emotional person and my husband is not. When I say emotional, I dont mean crying or whatever, I mean bringing up an issue if I disagree with or have concerns about. For example, he was gone for 2 weeks on vacation and he decided to completely not talk to me for 2 weeks, and this was just something he wanted. Agreed he is allowed to enjoy his time but he gave me no such impression before leaving (either in words or attitude) that he wanted some time alone. When I bring that up as to what precipitated to that, I am the drama queen. It is a catch 22 with him always, several instances, if I communicate, I am a drama queen and if I dont, i am an ice queen. At our son’s first birthday, he was mad at me because I apparently didnt invite him for photos. It is a different issue that I was so caught up with hospitality that I didnt even initiate it. But apparently I should have and should have invited him- as per his arguement with me later. There are strings of situation where this man randomly surprises me by misunderstanding my intentions. So at this point only thing left is me and I want to focus on my life, on what I want to do and how I want to do it. I have tolerated his so called tantrums and the only thing left for me is to do what works best for me. Both parties involved have to learn to speak each other’s love languages, agreed the learning curve for each is different. So I am just letting it go to the universe and palms up having faith that there is some share of happiness stored for me somewhere.