Dear Gigi:

You are welcome. There is a lot that has taken place in the last few years in your marriage that you didn’t share about, as there must be reason why this “very kind person” with “a sensitive side” and a “family driven guy” has gone angry at you on an ongoing basis, repulsed and radio silent.

Maybe you want to leave your husband but you are afraid to and so, you want another connection, a relationship with your co worker, to give you the  safe feeling you need so to leave your husband.

I suppose your co worker who is “very kind and caring and gentle” can also change, like your husband did…?

I do hope you attend competent psychotherapy/ counseling to figure out what is going on and what to do next. As is, keep yourself as calm as possible, pay attention to what you do at the moment, throughout the day, so to make the best daily choices, and post here anytime.

You wrote: “I have had enough ventures in my life, many serious and not so serious ones… I am beginning to question the integrity of it all”- maybe some answers are right in this sentence. If you would like, you can elaborate on it, what ventures? What integrity are you referring to?

anita