Dear Notebookb6:

By “personal development” you mean moving out of home, no longer living with your parents (“1. Move out from family to live alone (self development”). You asked me earlier about healing from the recent breakup following being a “sh**& girlfriend”.

I assume the relationship with one (or both) parent is not good and it is ongoing, no breakup of sorts yet (no moving out yet). If you are still having an unhealthy relationship with a parent, living with that parent, healing is impossible or can be very limited at best. Therefore it is a “1)” priority. You can’t develop (“self development”) when you are stuck in a bad relationship at home.

When a person of any age is stuck in a bad relationship with a parent, the person’s development is arrested.

You didn’t move out yet, I understand, correct?

anita