Dear Alia:

You mentioned your family in a previous thread as well as in your recent post: “my family suffering for my issues”. You mentioned in an earlier post that you are in your early forties. I am wondering if by family you mean parents/ siblings, your original family, that is (not husband/ children). Maybe your sense of responsibility toward your parents (if I am correct in my assumption that this is the family you referred to) is dragging you down. Maybe a sense of over-responsibility is and has been making your life very difficult.

When I believed that every choice I made regarding money/ employment was a choice that greatly affected my mother, that I owed her… that made every such choice very difficult to make and “making mistakes has paralyzed me” as well. Is this the case for you too, feeling the burden of financial responsibility for parent/s?

anita