Dear Ben:

Like I wrote to  you in your previous thread, your communication with her regarding having children was contradictory and unclear from early on and throughout. If she gave you contradictory messages on the issue (I don’t remember reading from you that she did), then she was unclear as well.

A couple counseling session or sessions, better, is an excellent idea. I can’t think of a circumstance that calls more for couple counseling than this one. This is the right time for such counseling by a good counselor, that is.

There is a need for complete and un ambiguous clarity by both sides and help in communicating effectively regarding what to do next. Because of the emotional intensity on your part and your wife’s, you do need the help of a professional and capable counselor/ therapist.

anita