Dear Lee:

You wrote: “I can’t help but wonder if I left the one person that would have stayed forever?”- clearly he is not that one person who would have stayed forever, because you wrote: “he left me 3 days after that. Saying he doesn’t want me in his life anymore”.

You wrote: “all I want is love. I know my love comes from a desperate place”- I agree, and I know that desperate place from personal experience. It makes us imagine things that aren’t true.

“He used to say a lot of amazing things and he wanted to fight for us”- anyone can say anything. It doesn’t take much time or energy to say words. But what is it that he did, did he fight for you?

– “he never took me out on a proper date, never paid for me and met me at 23 pm onward”- he didn’t do  what it takes to see you before 11 pm.

But desperate we make believe, we hold  on to words, ignore contradictory statements, ignore contradictory behaviors, because we are desperate.

There are too many people willing to take advantage of those who are desperate.

Most important for you to do is to arrange your life in such a way that you are not desperate, wherever it may be, so that you are able to evaluate people before getting involved with them, so that you don’t put yourself in dangerous situations, so that you are not misused by people.

Can you make it so that you are no longer desperate?

anita