Dear madxx:

He is 24 and he sleeps in one bed with his mother night after night for two  years, except when you visit and he sleeps with you in his old room.

You wrote in your previous thread that since his father died, he, your boyfriend, “has taken it upon himself to fill the void of his dad”. He also does “all the things for his mom that his dad used to do” and the two of them “are attached at the hip”.

You wrote that your boyfriend “stated pretty bluntly that there is absolutely no way he could leave his mother alone and that he planned on living with her forever. No room for negotiations there”. He said to you: “I’m with my mom forever”.

You are considering moving in with the two of them, with a son and his mother, such a “sweet, such a giving woman, too giving… does everything for everyone and never asks for anything in return”, you wrote.

In your recent thread, this one, you wrote that when you brought up the problem you have with him sleeping with his mother, “he has just said he misses his dad’s smell and how am I supposed to argue with that”-

-well, you can argue with that: his father died two years ago, the bedsheets have been washed many times since his death. As he sleeps in the bed with his mother, it is her smell that he is inhaling dozens of times every hour of the night, not his father’s. Don’t you think?

anita