Dear AnxiousAsUsual:

When you talk to him next, don’t argue, just talk. Bring up what you need to bring up but do it in a calm tone of voice and a relaxed enough face, best you can, not perfectly, of course.

Regarding doing the laundry etc., it is not something only a wife should do, what I mean is that if he works more hours than you do and he pays more of the bills, then it is fair that you do more of the household chores.

As I read your recent post I was wondering: are you interested in marrying him, are you resentful that he didn’t ask you so far to marry him (I assume he didn’t)?

anita