Hi Anita,

Thank you for always being so thorough and detailed. To answer your questions, he was serious when he said this statement. He told me that what he meant by it was that he didn’t want a partner that would “stand in his way” or keep him from doing whatever it is that he needs to do. In speaking with him more, the last conversation we had it was this that angered him so greatly, that in me trying to clarify the comment about how he was talking to his dad, he felt when I said “no, no, just wait! I want to say something” I was standing in his way, and he said he “didn’t deserve to be dealing with someone where there are so many misunderstandings and is constantly confused” (as I often don’t understand his anger or frustrations with me, so I say I’m confused and ask him to explain for me so I can understand and empathize with him).

When I said I think I could have worked with that, I meant that maybe it wasn’t such a bad idea for me to be with someone that can completely take the lead. I seem to question and regret most decisions I make, so I thought maybe it was a good thing he was so assertive with what he wanted to do. That being said, he seemed to want to make decisions and go about with his life in a way that didn’t include me very much, which often hurt. And I think this was his primary annoyance with me, that I wanted to be included and thought of. In one of our last conversations, he said he wants to be alone and single for a long time, as he doesn’t want to “factor someone in” anymore…