Dear Harmnder:

(The following is not me doing the CBT exercise I suggested, I am not a psychotherapist. What I am doing is questioning your statements)

Your evidence that you love him is that you “light up when (you) speak about him”.

– He never met you. He never saw you lighting up when you spoke about him or to him. So your evidence is that you felt love for him, love that didn’t reach him.

“whenever I’ve needed someone he’s always been there”- that is evidence of his love, not yours.

“I would happily give him all my time if it means that it would make him happy”- but would you not give him your time (by no longer trying to contact him) if it will make him happy?

anita