Dear Hella:

Maybe it is not that you weren’t enough for him. Maybe you were too much for him. What I mean by it is that many people don’t feel comfortable with intense emotions, they rather be calm than excited. Maybe he chose this other woman because she doesn’t excite him that much.

You wrote that his girlfriend lives in another country, therefore his relationship with her is long distance. It may suit him, the distance, this way he gets to be cool, literally cool, not hot with emotions, with excitation.

It is a possibility, what do you think?

anita