Hello Anita!

Thanks for your reply. He did break up with his ex-girlfriend. It was over a phone call but took almost 3-4 days to discuss their feeling about the situation and finally he ended things. After that they did not stay in touch. He contacted her only few days before her planned visit. She was here to visit her family for a week, so he met her only once during that time. Since he initiated the break up and he only got back in touch, she inferred he wanted to get back together. I would like to add, they were serious about each other and he had met her family on several occasions. Though his family stays in a different city, so she had not met his parents, but they knew about her.

Before contacting her, he came to me first and told me that he has been thinking about her. Also, I do not believe that they could have been possibly in touch online. He has been very honest with me right from the start. We were spending almost all the time together after work. Either I used to be at his place or he at mine after work and we would spend our weekends also together. He was so dedicated towards our relationship, that I don’t think he could have been with both of us at the same time.

It was his first serious relationship, so I understand his conflict. He should have taken some time to heal, he also regrets it now. I thought that since he was in LDR for the majority part, the same rules don’t apply.

Even when he first told me about his conflicting feelings, he just came to me looking for a discussion on how should we handle the whole thing. I felt so hurt that I told him to break up, but he suggested a break. He still keeps on checking with me if I am doing okay. He says he wants to be with me a 100%, but I am not sure if that is possible. In his confused state of mind, he is not able to convince me completely. So I would like your thoughts on this whole situation.