Dear ALittleLost:

A little summary of what you shared: you are about to turn 34, living with family (parents?). You are currently unemployed and have been applying for full time work in various locations not  knowing where you want to live next. You have the beginning of a small business and you feel confident in your skills and the potential of this business to produce living income for you, but it is not producing that yet, and it requires much more time and work, if I understand correctly.

Question: is this business an online business, one that you can work on from any location?

My input: I remember as a child observing ants working diligently to build their home. Every time their home was destroyed, they didn’t hesitate for a moment, immediately they proceeded to build again, from the beginning. This is what we humans need to do as well, restart, rebuild, from the beginning.

What is past is just that, it no longer exists. There is great sadness in accepting this, in saying goodbye to what we hoped for and how we felt when we hoped for what we did. But we can’t get it back.

So now what?

Answer: “a Reset  Button”, you said it yourself. Start from the beginning. If your small business, still in its infancy, can be done from any location, then if I was you, I would move to a less busy location, not a busy, expensive city, but a place were rents are lower. I would find a job that pays well enough and continue to develop the business. I would look for a friend, over time, a boyfriend in that new location.

The shame you mentioned, what is that about?

anita