Dear Lilly:

I am glad you didn’t share with me the details of what he said to you because yes, I would have gotten upset and because you don’t need my input  on what he said, which I am so glad about, that you figured it out yourself and no longer feel any regret, and to top all these good news, he doesn’t have your number, excellent!

Your first paragraph, remind what you wrote there to yourself once in a while. Maybe it will be a good idea if you copied parts of our communication here and pasted it  on a paper, parts that you want to re-read in the future.

I hope living elsewhere is a more pleasant experience for you, but anywhere you live of  course, people will sometimes be occupied with a problem and look upset and you will have to remind yourself that it is not about you, something you did wrong. Keep paying attention to behaving respectfully to others so that you are less likely to think you did something wrong to bring about someone being upset.

Back to: “I ended it on my own terms and I feel calmer”- I am proud of you, if I may say so!

anita