Dear Chantel:

If I was you, I wouldn’t just show up at the funeral. I would either ask him if he wants you to come and then attend if he expresses to you that he wants you there, in the back, or if I don’t ask him, I will not make a surprise (to  him) visit at the funeral.

You can hand him a condolence card, I don’t see the harm in it.

Point is, he doesn’t want his relationship with you public (according to your previous thread), so  you showing up at the funeral is likely to make him very uncomfortable.

anita