Dear Nichole:

Place yourself as your highest priority, not your brother, not any of your family members. Your life will be better for it.

For a potential better relationship with your brother, move away from him, create a distance so that you can become more of who you are.

Remaining within the confines of family relationships that made you less of who you are so far, will continue to result in the same: less of you.

This is my advice. The beauty of free choice is that you are free to ignore it.

Regarding your aunt, you mean she is aware that she is giving you crap, intends to give you more crap and she told you basically that you have to take it because you have no choice; that she took crap and you should too?

anita