1 My family in general is very rigid. We don’t really express our feelings. That changed for me in my teens but my mother is still the same. When you say loved, i take that as knowing someone is always there for you and cherishes you. I do not have evidence for that.My mom has always asked us to solve our problems. She never listens for us to unload, it is always to solve it or fix it and tell us what we are doing wrong. But not in a harsh way, it is just detached.

2. She does love us, to this day she becomes unsettled when i fall sick and i see that she wants to see us get better. I think she has her own idea of what is right and she wants that for us – her behaviour reflects that but it has left me feeling very lonely at times when i just wanted someone to be by my side when i was down